Posted by Jeffrey on Thursday, 10 April, 2008
Shelby writes,
I recently found out that my husband of seven years has been paying his ex-wife additional money above and beyond the court ordered child support. It totals $12,000 over the last 23 months. He has lied when I have asked if he is giving her money. I decided to check on the account and found 14 deposits into her account over the last 23 months. I am upset. What should I do?
Shelby,
You are understandly upset. Your husband betrayed your trust. However, his intentions may be good. The mandatory amount of child support determined by the court is often insufficient to help a single mother out, and your husband is simply offering a better life to his child(ren) from his previous marriage. Read the rest of this entry »
Posted by Jeffrey on Tuesday, 8 April, 2008
Chris writes,
I recently told a young woman that I loved her. She replied that she had deep feelings for me. Now she calls me her “special friend” and her “big teddy bear”. I don’t want to lose her as a friend but I want more out of this relationship. Am I kidding myself or do I have a shot at this happening?
Chris,
Big teddy bear is a de-sexualized expression of affection. Having deep feelings falls short of love. She’s trying to tell you that you mean a lot to her, but she doesn’t want to be your girlfriend. And she wasn’t explicit because she didn’t want to hurt your feelings. Read the rest of this entry »
Posted by Jeffrey on Friday, 4 April, 2008
communicator writes,
Certain women during the initial stages of relationships appear to be responsive but at regualar intervals flake out on the phone by either making up some excuse or sometimes hanging up for no reason. Are women following some kind of formula? I can understand if the guy is rude but lets just talk about times when things are going well. Do women just expect guys to take this bad behavior? Has it backfired on women who employ this strategy? Would be interesting to get a women perspective - especially ones familiar with psycho-literature on “how to get guys and keep them”. Fascinating stuff. Read the rest of this entry »