How do I control a woman who only wants me for my money?
Posted by Jeffrey on Thursday, 24 April, 2008
Aquarian man writes,
I was once involved with this … woman and all she was doing was using me, for my money. She acts like she don’t want to be bothered unless i am upping her cash all the time. How do I control her to be in a decent relationship with her without her needing my money all the time!
Aquarian man,
You cannot control her. If she only “bothers” with you if you give her money, it means she does not respect you. You do not want to be with a woman like that.
Men are taught that their value lies in their ability to be caretakers. From the perspective of evolutionary psychology, a man who has a high earning potential can attract mates because he provides financial security. He then propagates his genes by choosing selective women who will bear his children.
This particular woman does not want to carry your baby.
But you’re probably not thinking that far ahead. You just want her attention. However, you get her time at a price. You may as well hire an escort, because a sex worker wouldn’t care any more for you than this woman.
You work hard for your money. Don’t waste your energy on someone who uses you.
~ Jeffrey
April 24th, 2008 at
This particular woman does not want to carry your baby.
ROFL!!! You are killing me Jeffrey!
Seriously dude, if she’s taking you for money you should at least get what YOU want. Unfortunately you can’t buy love and respect. ;(
April 24th, 2008 at
Aquarian Man, In reference to……”How do I control her to be in a decent relationship with her without her needing my money all the time!”
I’m curious as to what led you to believe that you CAN control anyone into doing anything ? Has life not taught you yet that we can only control ourselves & never others ??? If I were you, I would spend more time & energy in introspection trying to figure out which of my own psychological issues are making me so vulnerable that I’m letting someone else take me for a ride like this rather than wasting any time & energy in trying to ‘fix’ her. Good luck to you !!!
April 29th, 2008 at
“Unfortunately you can’t buy love and respect.”
You continuing giving her money loses more respect for you.
April 29th, 2008 at
And, can you get a REAL attention of a woman without having to use props, like cash?
Appearantly there is a personality flaw.
“Fix it.”
April 29th, 2008 at
The real question is: do you FEEL good enough to get worthy attention of other women? Because why this one?
May 2nd, 2008 at
So, what became of you Aquarian man?
Have you found anyone truly nice who appreciates *you* not your money?
May 9th, 2008 at
You said you were once involved with her, have you asked her if she wants to get involved with you again? Does she call you? I know a Scorp like myself would not take money from someone I don’t love. The same could be said for leo and saggotarious women. Does this woman still call you or anything? Do you try to see her?
May 9th, 2008 at
Aquarian Man:
I’m an Aquarian woman. I have to ask, “what are you doing?”…. Forget her. I know you like the challenge but c’mon ask yourself is it worth it? I know she isn’t worth it. But I know us, aquarians, are going to do what we want to do. =)
Wish you the best of luck…hope you meet someone that truly cherishes you for the wonderful and caring man you are.
May 9th, 2008 at
Very true SCORPines! I will not take money from a man unless I love him!!!! That is actually my way of showing that he is finally “in” with me, because otherwise, I will insist that I can pay my own way. It’s a control-freak/independent/love-you-for-you kinda thing
But, this doesn’t quite sound like that kind of situation. One thing you should know about this woman, Aquarian Man, is that SHE is missing out too. I actually feel very badly for women who gold dig, because it tells me they don’t even know what BETTER treasure a relationship can offer than money, which tells me they have probably never even been introduced to these things: i.e. intimacy, emotional support, bonding, etc. Maybe she is also just old-fashioned, or is she from another culture where this is typical for the women?
May 9th, 2008 at
Ignipotent, this is a very good point that you’ve written: “I actually feel very badly for women who gold dig, because it tells me they don’t even know what BETTER treasure a relationship can offer than money”
May 9th, 2008 at
Most of the women in my family are gold diggers. That is why I have learned to see these types with some compassion. They don’t even know what they are missing.
Hey thanks