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My married High School Sweetheart is never going to leave his wife

Jeffrey — Thu, 15 May 2008 20:09:13 +0000

Juicy writes,

About 6 years ago my High School Sweetheart and I ran into each other at an event. We both knew that we still loved each other and it was ON!!!! I truly believe that this man is my soul mate - the Love of my Life!!!!! However, we just couldn’t make it happen, at that time I was still married and so was he. After some time I left my home and relationship because we planned to be together, but he had some issues with his daughter and his wife’s health - so we agreed that I would give him some time to get his things in order, we didn’t want to hurt anyone or cause embarrassment to his family or mine so we kept quiet about our plans. (more…)

I want to talk again, but he won’t respond to my e-mails

Jeffrey — Wed, 07 May 2008 09:00:45 +0000

flourish writes,

The man I love hasn’t spoken to me in seven months. We had a rocky relationship in which he shut me out several times. When we began to get friendly again, I was too angry and shut him out for a few months, refusing to speak to him and giving him a taste of his own medicine. Now, I would like us to talk again, but he won’t respond to any of my e-mails and has changed his phone number. I ran into him randomly and I could see that he was as shocked as I was. I think that he still cares, but I wonder if I’m being foolish. Is there anything I can do to resolve this situation? (more…)

The man who loves me won’t break up with his long-distance girlfriend

Jeffrey — Tue, 06 May 2008 00:23:29 +0000

SANCLO writes,

I have a friend of 12 yrs. We were friends prior to my marriage and now after my marriage. I knew he always liked me and I though he was ok, until towards the end of my marriage and I started to realize that he was the yin to my yang. He says he always knew from the time he laid eyes on me. We stimulate each other mentally, emotionally, and physically to high degree, but he has a long distance girlfriend he sees twice a year. During the end of my marriage, I finally decided to sleep with him and it was the best I ever had. I think it was because we had an emotional bond prior to sleeping together. Well, that gelled it for us. (more…)

Is cybersex cheating?

Jeffrey — Tue, 29 Apr 2008 18:22:42 +0000

The following question is from Yahoo Answers:

one&only1 writes,

Do you think chatting and cyber sex is cheating, or a form of entertainment? No web cam, just a microphone and keyboard

one&only1,

For some there are many gradations of cheating, for others it’s black-and-white. It really depends upon whomever you think you might be cheating on. (more…)

How do I control a woman who only wants me for my money?

Jeffrey — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 17:20:32 +0000

Aquarian man writes,

I was once involved with this … woman and all she was doing was using me, for my money. She acts like she don’t want to be bothered unless i am upping her cash all the time. How do I control her to be in a decent relationship with her without her needing my money all the time!

Aquarian man,

You cannot control her. If she only “bothers” with you if you give her money, it means she does not respect you. You do not want to be with a woman like that. (more…)

Should I give my ex another chance?

Jeffrey — Tue, 22 Apr 2008 20:35:24 +0000

tiffanymarie06 writes,

I met my ex-fiance about a year and a half ago while we were stationed in virginia beach (we are both in the Navy). I was dating someone else at the time who he knew so it started off as friends. When my boyfriend broke up with me, he was the first person I went to and he held me while I cried, talked to me, and listened, and ultimately made me feel a lot better. We ended up spending more time together and developed deeper feelings toward each other when he got new orders to Florida. We lost contact for about 6 months but then started talking again, and realized we still had feelings for each other. By this time I had moved to DC but we worked hard to make the long distance thing work, and then got engaged. One day I recieved a call from a good friend of his from back home (who is also his ex) saying that he still has feelings for her and wanted to hook up with her when he went home on leave. (more…)

Am I just jealous, or are my boyfriend and his coworker involved with each other?

Jeffrey — Wed, 16 Apr 2008 20:36:21 +0000

Kiki writes,

When I met him I knew he had a lot of female friends. I have no problem with this. However, there is one, whom he’s been friends with for about 7 months or so, that has got me bothered. Until about 3 months ago (when they began working at the same place), he rarely mentioned her. Lately, I have noticed that they talk or text each other several times a day. He claims that they only talk about work. However, they both only work at the assisted living facility about 3-4 times a week. I question how much do they need to discuss. He’s been dishonest about the times that they have spoken or text one another. I spoke to him about this and let him know that I was not comfortable with this friendship. I don’t understand the secrecy with her. He has even gotten to the point that he will discuss things with her and not talk to me, and yes some of it personal. While I know virtually nothing about this woman. When I question him, I get the “we are just friends” talk. (more…)

Pregnant woman’s boyfriend spends most evenings with female friends

Jeffrey — Mon, 14 Apr 2008 09:00:21 +0000

Macey writes,

Ive been living with this guy for almost a year. Well, here recently his friends moved in right across the street from us, and a couple of them are girls. Ive always had a problem with him hanging out with girls, but with one of the girls, he calls her like 3 times a day and i rarely get to see him because he stays over there hangin out with his buddies until time for bed. We are on the verge of breaking up, but his argument is that i need to let him have his friends and that he needs time away from me. He has even asked me to go home for a couple of weeks so he can be alone. We are having a baby together in july and I really dont want to lose him. What should I do? (more…)

My husband is giving his ex-wife extra money!

Jeffrey — Thu, 10 Apr 2008 18:51:38 +0000

Shelby writes,

I recently found out that my husband of seven years has been paying his ex-wife additional money above and beyond the court ordered child support. It totals $12,000 over the last 23 months. He has lied when I have asked if he is giving her money. I decided to check on the account and found 14 deposits into her account over the last 23 months. I am upset. What should I do?

Shelby,

You are understandly upset. Your husband betrayed your trust. However, his intentions may be good. The mandatory amount of child support determined by the court is often insufficient to help a single mother out, and your husband is simply offering a better life to his child(ren) from his previous marriage. (more…)

What’s my standing with a woman who calls me her special friend?

Jeffrey — Tue, 08 Apr 2008 18:38:24 +0000

Chris writes,

I recently told a young woman that I loved her. She replied that she had deep feelings for me. Now she calls me her “special friend” and her “big teddy bear”. I don’t want to lose her as a friend but I want more out of this relationship. Am I kidding myself or do I have a shot at this happening?

Chris,

Big teddy bear is a de-sexualized expression of affection. Having deep feelings falls short of love. She’s trying to tell you that you mean a lot to her, but she doesn’t want to be your girlfriend. And she wasn’t explicit because she didn’t want to hurt your feelings. (more…)