Posted by Jeffrey on Tuesday, 8 April, 2008
Chris writes,
I recently told a young woman that I loved her. She replied that she had deep feelings for me. Now she calls me her “special friend” and her “big teddy bear”. I don’t want to lose her as a friend but I want more out of this relationship. Am I kidding myself or do I have a shot at this happening?
Chris,
Big teddy bear is a de-sexualized expression of affection. Having deep feelings falls short of love. She’s trying to tell you that you mean a lot to her, but she doesn’t want to be your girlfriend. And she wasn’t explicit because she didn’t want to hurt your feelings. Read the rest of this entry »
Posted by Jeffrey on Friday, 4 April, 2008
communicator writes,
Certain women during the initial stages of relationships appear to be responsive but at regualar intervals flake out on the phone by either making up some excuse or sometimes hanging up for no reason. Are women following some kind of formula? I can understand if the guy is rude but lets just talk about times when things are going well. Do women just expect guys to take this bad behavior? Has it backfired on women who employ this strategy? Would be interesting to get a women perspective - especially ones familiar with psycho-literature on “how to get guys and keep them”. Fascinating stuff. Read the rest of this entry »
Posted by Jeffrey on Wednesday, 2 April, 2008
cohabitation connundrum writes,
I’ve recently met the man of my dreams. Well, the man of my dreams resurrected in the flesh. We’ve been together nearly nonstop for the last 2 months or so. We get along smashingly, have the same goals and outlook on life, are both settled, established and comfortable with who we are. We’ve both been through the relationship wringer a few times and I believe we’re both approaching our relationship with eyes, hearts and minds fully open. ΒΆ Recently, my man sent me an email and suggested that we move in together in a few months time. I was moderately freaked out and responded in a way that was open to exploration but noncommittal. I do want to live with him, but I’m not sure when or if it’s too soon. Read the rest of this entry »
